The Psyche and Eros Relationship Analysis for

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Birth Data for Maria:

November 6, 1955

5:12 PM

Chicago, Illinois

Birth Data for Arnold:

July 30, 1947

4:10 AM

Graz, Austria

What is it you want to know when you are checking out a romantic relationship? Basically two things. First, you want to understand the emotional needs, temperament, hang-ups and issues each person brings to the relationship. In other words, the relationship potential of each person. And then, of course, you want to understand how the emotional needs, temperament, hang-ups and issues of one person relate to those of another person in order to see how they would get along. In other words, the compatibility analysis.

The first two sections of the complete Psyche and Eros Relationship Analysis describes the relationship potential of each person. Sections 3 and 4 is the compatibility analysis and describes how the two people experience each other and the relationship from the perspective of each person.

The myth of Psyche and Eros is a love story which shows the soul's longing for -- and ultimate attainment of -- love.

Your birth chart interpretation is based on the positions of the planets at the time of your birth. For the benefit of students of astrology, these positions, along with other technical information, are listed below:

Data for Maria:                           Data for Arnold:

Tropical Zodiac                          Tropical Zodiac

House System: PLACIDUS       House System: PLACIDUS

Standard time observed Daylight Savings Time observed
Time Zone: 6 hours West Time Zone: 1 hours East
GMT: 23:12:00 GMT: 02:10:00
41 N 51 87 W 39 47 N 05 15 E 27

Sun 13 deg 46 min Sco                        Sun 6 deg 05 min Leo
Moon 14 deg 26 min Leo                     Moon 3 deg 31 min Cap
Merc 27 deg 59 min Lib                       Merc 18 deg 03 min Can
Venus 1 deg 06 min Sag                     Venus 26 deg 22 min Can
Mars 15 deg 44 min Lib                      Mars 20 deg 06 min Gem
Jup 28 deg 55 min Leo                       Jup 18 deg 00 min Sco
Sat 22 deg 37 min Sco                       Sat 11 deg 35 min Leo
Uran 2 deg 20 min Leo                       Uran 24 deg 30 min Gem
Nept 28 deg 34 min Lib                      Nept 8 deg 27 min Lib
Pluto 28 deg 28 min Leo                    Pluto 12 deg 46 min Leo
Asc. 26 deg 23 min Tau                      Asc. 19 deg 07 min Can
MC 3 deg 26 min Aqu                         MC 24 deg 22 min Pis
2nd 21 deg 31 min Gem                     2nd 6 deg 36 min Leo
3rd 12 deg 06 min Can                       3rd 27 deg 12 min Leo
5th 0 deg 11 min Vir                            5th 1 deg 22 min Sco
6th 8 deg 25 min Lib                            6th 13 deg 48 min Sag

You are earthy, sensual and, secretly, a little vain. Your "creature comforts" are important to you and you will always manage to be materially secure. You are very persevering (and sometimes very stubborn) and tend to form long-lasting relationships.

Those to whom you are close are endlessly fascinating in that you never feel you totally understand or possess them. Sometimes this arouses possessiveness or jealousy but it certainly maintains your interest. They are deeply emotional, reserved and powerful.

You are attracted to intensely magnetic people who are extremely controlling and not always easy to understand. You, yourself, are loving, sensual, somewhat stubborn and possessive and have strong security needs. You love strength but may resent dominance.

Power struggles are not unusual in your relationships although they may take subtle forms such as obsession, jealousy or fears of abandonment. The emotional ties between you and your mate are deep and engulfing and require total trust on both sides.

Your close relationships are with people who are artistic, attractive and charming. They have taste, style, good manners and aesthetic sensibility. They may also be somewhat flirtatious which occasionally arouses in you feelings of possessiveness.

You are personally attractive and charming and probably have always been popular. You enjoy the esteem of others and anyone you are close to would tend to reflect the value system of those you respect and would be popular with them as well.

It's ironic that someone who so values security, both emotionally and materially, should have experienced such volcanic disruptions in your home and family throughout your life. When you were a child, these changes may have been due to finances, abrupt changes in circumstances, family crises, deaths or changes of residence. There may also have been a complicated situation related to your father which dominated your childhood.

As an adult, you are attracted to people who are strong, dynamic and with whom you feel you can establish the stable home you may not have enjoyed as a child. And you will do what it takes to make it work. You will change your life style or move to a far-off place. Whatever it takes. Your most enduring relationships are usually those which require such major life changes. When you are involved in a relationship that is an extension of your life as you know it and doesn't require any major change, the transformations occur in the person with whom you are involved. It could be a change of circumstances or a personal crisis or even a great success which would strongly impact your relationship. One way or another, even if you have chosen someone who did not seem to be controlling by nature, the course of the relationship and, indeed, your life will be determined as much by your partner's destiny as by your own.

Your imagination is so powerful that, if you don't have a strong creative or spiritual outlet, you may at times be over-influenced by your own fantasies or those of others. Beware of gullibility. In the long run, telling the truth is in your best interest.

When you were growing up, there was a distance between your parents either physically or emotionally. You did not experience mother/father, male/female, yin/yang working together as a unit. Thus, you may have difficulty with at least one intimate tie.

It's never been possible for you to live according to anyone else's timetable. For that reason, you prefer to work for yourself and make your own rules. In order for you to sustain a close, personal tie, you must find someone as independent as you are.

You may be overly self-indulgent and inclined toward excesses of eating, drinking, sex or anything which gives you pleasure. You would not be comfortable with someone who was too reserved. You can be quite extravagant both emotionally and financially.

There is a quality about you people tend to trust. They confide in you and generally feel better in your presence which has a kind of healing quality. Sometimes you tend to draw close relationships who originally came to see you for some sort of help or guidance.

You are not always aware of your own magnetism. Others find you intense and, sometimes, controlling. You have such strong fears of losing relationships that sometimes you imagine that people are turning against you when the opposite is more often true.

There is nothing humdrum about the way that you love. You have a flair for the unusual and the creative and are drawn to those who shun the conventional. You shy away from those who tend to be over-possessive. Your love affairs are also wonderful friendships.

You have a quality people trust and you are often sought after as a confidante or an advisor. You have high moral and ethical standards and it is imperative that anyone you're close to is a person of the highest integrity. You prefer well-educated people.

You are extremely persuasive and, perhaps, skilled at manipulating others to share your views. Your intuition is powerful and the research skills which may help you professionally also manifest in your private life. You know everyone's deepest secrets.

Yours was not a happy childhood and, while there is nothing you want more than a close love relationship, you may also fear it. You probably have an active sex life but may have some discomfort acknowledging feelings of love, dependence or vulnerability.

You are personally attractive with a natural charm which tends to draw people to you. Your native courtesy tends to make others assume that you share their values even when this isn't quite the case. You are unusually sensitive to others' appearance.

You were not encouraged to be overly expressive when you were a child and as an adult still tend to be somewhat reserved. You often give the impression of being serious or even stern when, in truth, you are simply feeling shy or self-protective.

Brilliant and original as you are, you can also be difficult and unpredictable. Close ties may complain they never know when you are going to show up or what you're planning next. You are easily bored and love people who can both stimulate and surprise you.

You are guided far more by your spiritual ideals than by more material motivations. While intimate ties are important to you, if the other person didn't share your more cosmic goals, the relationship could not last. Your dreams often become realities.

You are passionate, competitive and high-spirited and enjoy relationships with assertive, independent people. You're restless and active and, when you are close to someone, like to do things together. You enjoy a good fight and don't carry a grudge.

Love cannot exist for you without admiration and respect. You like to feel proud of your relationships and often form close ties with those in positions of authority. You are socially conscious and attract friends and good fortune through your personal charm and talent.

You relate to your world through your intellect but you may be so absorbed in your own ideas or projects that you don't always perceive when misunderstandings or cross-purposes place you at odds with others and set up unnecessary barriers to communication.

No one has ever quarreled with the obvious fact of your intelligence, however your ideas often put you at odds with people in positions of authority, leaving you with two alternatives: a continuous battle or a withdrawal into your own independent sphere.

Your self-esteem is based less upon what you are in your own or others' eyes than on what you do. You may become so compulsive about achievement that you cannot relax into a warm, enduring relationship until you have achieved some success in your career.

People do not receive an accurate first impression of you. Owing to shyness or lack of confidence, you have cultivated a persona which is not expressive of the person you experience yourself to be. This creates complications in personal relationships.

It's as if the emotional and rational sides of your nature take turns expressing themselves. You are either utterly detached and objective about a situation or so emotionally involved you have no perspective. You are not in touch with your feelings.

You are emotional, sensitive, domestic and extremely self-protective. Your relationship with your parents was not balanced in that you were far more affected by your mother than you were by your father. You unconsciously seek your father's qualities in a partner.

The people you are close to are well-organized, ambitious and, at times, a bit melancholy. They give your life structure and take care of you practically and materially (not necessarily financially) the way you take care of them emotionally. You create a nest.

You are a nurturing, loving, parenting person who likes to take care of people. You try to create an emotionally safe space for Maria to enable the sharing of inner needs and longings that people outside the home would never suspect. Privacy makes the relationship special for you.

Your partners usually require a good deal of attention. They are often serious people and sometimes rather depression-prone. They tend to be ambitious and successful but not very expressive emotionally. They may require more understanding than they give.

You are emotional and intense and, once you set your sights on a goal, you are not to be dissuaded. However, you know your priorities. Unless you feel emotionally and financially secure, you are almost paralyzed. You seek relationships with people you know will be there for you. While you certainly want the kind of nurturing you are inclined to give, you may not always expect it or look for it. When making a decision about a permanent relationship (as opposed to a love affair), you would probably choose the steady, reliable person over the more romantic one. You need to be a little careful here. There is a fine line between knowing what's best for you in the long run and not believing you deserve or should expect it. Of course, you shouldn't choose someone impractical who eventually you would cease to respect. However, don't sell yourself short emotionally. You do deserve to be happy.

You are very emotional about money and possessions. You need to know there's enough and that it will last. This acquisitiveness can extend to your personal relationships. You are so impacted by your family. Perhaps money was the metaphor for your parents' difficulties. Perhaps you didn't feel sufficiently acknowledged or valued as a child. In any event, you are not emotionally comfortable unless you are financially secure. Here's the catch: if your early experience resulted in your undervaluing yourself, you may become emotionally involved with someone who either creates or seems to add to your financial problems. If you are comfortable with yourself and are not unconsciously setting up obstacles to your own happiness, you will choose someone with whom you share practical and material interests, who will also contribute significantly to your emotional security.

It's never been possible for you to live according to anyone else's timetable. For that reason, you prefer to work for yourself and make your own rules. In order for you to sustain a close, personal tie, you must find someone as independent as you are.

You have a quality people trust and you are often sought after as a confidante or an advisor. You have high moral and ethical standards and it is imperative that anyone you're close to is a person of the highest integrity. You prefer well-educated people.

You are extremely verbal and communicative and have no difficulty in making your thoughts and ideas clearly understood. At times, however, you may become a bit glib and use your "gift of gab" as a means of protecting yourself from emotional vulnerability.

Love cannot exist for you without admiration and respect. You like to feel proud of your relationships and often form close ties with those in positions of authority. You are socially conscious and attract friends and good fortune through your personal charm and talent.

There is a quality about you people tend to trust. They confide in you and generally feel better in your presence which has a kind of healing quality. Sometimes you tend to draw close relationships who originally came to see you for some sort of help or guidance.

Something in your relationship with your father aroused in you either fear or anger or both. Your relationships with men - personally or professionally - are not comfortable and when you are feeling vulnerable, you can be overly defensive or challenging.

You tend to dramatize your emotional state. When things are going pretty well, you're in ecstasy-and when things are not all they might be, it's the worst despair that ever struck mankind. People may find you a bit self-absorbed or inflated at times.

However cool or cynical you may appear to be externally, you are extraordinarily sensitive and romantic. You are gentle and artistic and would rather do without a relationship than be part of one which does not measure up to your highest ideals of love.

Your mother was either over-idealized or rejected as a feminine role model. You did not get a clear sense of who you were as a child and, as a result, may set impossibly high standards for yourself. You tend to be a loner.

Power is sexy to you and even when a relationship is not a romantic one, you find ambitious go-getters in positions of authority very magnetic and fascinating. It is important to you that close ties not only share your goals but are prepared to fight for them.

One of your great strengths is your sensitivity. You tune in easily to the psyches of other people and, while you may not notice the color of their eyes, have an almost eerie understanding of their private inner worlds. Your close ties are very private.

Your parents' interests and emotional natures, while not in violent conflict, were so different it was hard to understand how they ever came together. You associate close relationships with both longing and loneliness and may be unclear about roles.

Your self-esteem is based less upon what you are in your own or others' eyes than on what you do. You may become so compulsive about achievement that you cannot relax into a warm, enduring relationship until you have achieved some success in your career.

Power struggles plague your relationships. Either you become the dominant partner out of a fear of being controlled or you become very passive, controlling indirectly through guilt or manipulation. Your father may have been emotionally abusive to you.

You are personally attractive with a natural charm which tends to draw people to you. Your native courtesy tends to make others assume that you share their values even when this isn't quite the case. You are unusually sensitive to others' appearance.

Since you were a child in school, your intellectual and communicative skills attracted the attention of those in positions of authority and you were always able to make your way by being exceptionally clever. This facility serves you well as an adult.

When you were little, your teachers liked you and when you grew up, your employers liked you. You tend to approach all relationships both personal and professional with an easy assurance. It is important to you that close ties enjoy society's approval.

Most people like you. You form relationships easily but may have some difficulty sustaining them. You tend to project your own ego ideals onto your partner, sometimes at the expense of relating to their needs. For you, admiration is a prerequisite for love.

People do not receive an accurate first impression of you. Owing to shyness or lack of confidence, you have cultivated a persona which is not expressive of the person you experience yourself to be. This creates complications in personal relationships.

It's as if the emotional and rational sides of your nature take turns expressing themselves. You are either utterly detached and objective about a situation or so emotionally involved you have no perspective. You are not in touch with your feelings.

Maria, the following information explains how you view your relationship with Arnold, and explores some of the major issues that arise.

The attraction between the two of you is very powerful. Your physical being personifies all that Arnold finds most attractive and you feel Arnold's warmth, sensuality and affection in a very palpable way. You find the same things - and each other - beautiful.

Arnold has a calming effect upon you. When you are together, you feel wonderful. Arnold gives you the confidence to grow and expand and may be quite helpful to you in material ways by opening doors and providing opportunities.

No matter how close you, you're never entirely comfortable emotionally when you are together. Arnold subtly affects your self-confidence and you may have a disquieting sense that no matter how hard you try to please you never entirely succeed.

This is a relationship you were compulsively drawn into before you even decided you liked Arnold who can exert an odd power over you which you try at times to resist - rarely with success. The emotional tie is obsessive and evokes your deepest longings.

Arnold's ego and dynamic energy connect with you in a very personal way. You have no particular need to put anyone on a pedestal. Arnold may assist you in some way with your career goals without playing a role in defining those directions.

Your connection with Arnold is strangely bonding. If you are willing to submit to the restrictions and responsibilities this relationship imposes, it will be a lifetime tie which will improve with time. This can never be a casual relationship.

You may feel an excessively strong need to assert yourself as your ego feels very threatened by Arnold's subtle power over you. Your fascination with Arnold makes it difficult for you to sever the tie even if you feel the relationship is wrong for you.

There is something about Arnold's basic philosophy or world view which throws you somewhat off-center emotionally. You may often find yourself caught up by Arnold's enthusiasm or going along with things which are not truly representative of your own feelings.

There is something about Arnold's personal style and taste and way of expressing affection which doesn't comfortably merge with your own. It may not exactly lead to war, but it may have delayed the initial attraction. Your philosophies aren't quite in sync.

Your impatience or bossiness cuts no ice whatsoever with Arnold who will state personal opinions quite clearly and do whatever has to be done when and if the mood -- not you -- dictates. This may make for some lively moments between you which, on some level, you enjoy.

You like the way Arnold does things. It connects with a certain energy deep within yourself. Sometimes, however, you may be a bit hard on Arnold and make more demands than anyone could reasonably be expected to handle. This naturally leads either to a quarrel or Arnold's withdrawal.

There is something about the way Arnold thinks and communicates which enables you to be yourself. Sometimes it may seem as if Arnold is able to verbalize aspects of yourself you may have sensed but have never been able to adequately put into words or ideas.

You find Arnold's ideas interesting and unusual. They stimulate you to express your own in a way you wouldn't with someone else. Arnold is attracted by the less conventional aspects of your nature and encourages you to express your individuality and uniqueness.

The strong bond of love and affection between you will transcend the most difficult times. You love being physically together. Arnold makes you feel loved and valued, stimulates your creative energy and shares your values. You have fun together.

You express love and affection in similar ways which enables you to understand each other with a special intimacy. You also share the same tastes and values and enjoy many of the same things and people. Others enjoy being in your company at social functions.

You operate on a similar wave length and would do well both working together and playing together. Your physical energy complements Arnold's and you tend to have ups and downs at the same time which bodes well for sexual harmony and mutual cooperation.

You really do work well together. There's something about Arnold's influence which helps you to organize and harness your energy so that you can achieve your goals. You, in turn, stimulate Arnold to dare and not be over cautious. You're a good team.

Your connection is intensely erotic and compulsive. Arnold's personal magnetism both intrigues you and stimulates you to be at your productive best. Your energy may initiate major transforming changes in Arnold whose charisma empowers you.

While you may communicate very well on a rational level, sometimes you may feel as if Arnold doesn't really understand you. You may find Arnold's emotional responses incomprehensible as well. You have to make a special effort to share and connect.

One thing's for sure: Arnold doesn't exactly have a calming effect upon you emotionally. We might even go so far as to say that Arnold rattles you at times. However, Arnold also stimulates and intrigues you. Even if the ideas are odd, you must admit they're not dull.

You were attracted from the very first meeting. You felt, on one hand, that you completely understood Arnold and, on the other, that you never knew what to expect next. You admire Arnold's originality. It taps into a uniqueness of your own.

While you may like and respect each other and understand each other intellectually, there is an emotional distance which might prevent you from being truly at home with or comfortable with each other. You may, at times, find each other's moods or responses puzzling.

You don't think alike. Even if you are in emotional accord, there are times you seriously question if you see the same world since, while your perceptions are not necessarily in conflict, they are so different. Discussions are rarely fruitful or pleasurable.

Your relationship has always enjoyed a special intimacy. Even if the external details of your backgrounds and personal histories have been quite different, there is nevertheless a strong sense of shared experience and having a great deal in common.

You could live together quite comfortably. There is something about Arnold which, consciously or unconsciously, causes certain issues you had with your father to resurface. The true basis of your bond is private and not apparent to the casual observer.

Arnold has a knack for tuning into your deepest needs and longings which may give more power over you than either of you may realize. Arnold is intriguing to you sexually and has a way of subtly manipulating you which may be difficult for outsiders to comprehend.

You have no secrets from Arnold. Sometimes you have the unsettling feeling Arnold knows more about you than you know about yourself. This certainly adds to the fascination but it also may threaten you and cause you to try to resist the relationship.

The two of you really connect intellectually. Arnold's ideas are so stimulating to your own thinking processes that you may be motivated to develop them further through writing, lecturing or teaching. Your relationship centers on intense mutual interests.

It is very likely that you met at a lecture, in an educational setting or through a writing project you were both involved in. No doubt the strong common interests you share extend into your professional lives. You spend a great deal of time together.

Communication is not a problem in this relationship. You talk endlessly on the phone, enjoy long, wonderful discussions when together and write each other marvelous letters when you are separated. Your relationship originally grew out of these sharings.

There is something about Arnold's presence which improves your mood. Everything seems more pleasant and you notice it when this is not the case. Under Arnold's influence, you become more creative and the very environment appears enhanced and energized.

Arnold's energy really affects you. It can stimulate in you tremendous enthusiasm, competitiveness, irritation or sexual desire. Certainly you are neither placid nor indifferent when you are together. If you were, Arnold might decide to stir things up.

It would be a good thing for your relationship if you were physically active together. If circumstances prevent this, the energy could become destructive and manifest in quarreling or competitiveness. If it manifested in aggressiveness, it might be that Arnold is a bit afraid of you.

Arnold is definitely someone who makes your life easier. You work wonderfully together. Arnold helps you to do what you know you want, expands on your ideas and helps you to accomplish by being generous with time and knowledge.

Arnold has a beneficial effect not only upon your work but on your physical and mental health. Your mood and sense of well-being vastly improves in Arnold's presence. You may have similar good health practices which you encourage in each other.

Your home life is never entirely personal. Arnold brings all kinds of work and responsibility right into your living center. Either you become involved and share the work responsibilities or you begin to feel very much confined and restricted in your own home.

Arnold may make many demands upon you which are reminiscent of your father. Because of this relationship, you may spend a lot more time at home with the family than you may choose. Arnold may also have very definite ideas about rules and routines at home.

If you are looking for new and unusual ways to spend your money, stick with Arnold who will have no problem coming up with something. If a stable financial situation is important to you, you may have to rethink this relationship and its volatile effects.

On the other hand, if you are looking for new and unusual ways to earn money, you should also stick with Arnold whose originality and inventiveness and can stimulate you to add to your resources in ways which you wouldn't have thought of independently.

This would only be a good working relationship if your project involved something artistic or spiritual. Since you are often so in tune with each other, you can communicate shared ideas almost without speaking which can make for a wonderful collaboration.

However, if you are working on something more practical which requires clear and precise communication, confusion arises which, at times, could sabotage your results and have a negative effect upon your relationship -- especially if you felt Arnold was being irresponsible.

This relationship may have caused some intense conflict in your family. Arnold is very different from the people with whom you grew up and while this differentness might seem interesting or exotic to you, it is threatening to the other members of your family.

In addition, some of the circumstances surrounding this relationship might lead to or necessitate a major change of residence. This can be complicated since your life styles have been so different to begin with. Naturally, the one who has to adapt is you.

There is something about the way Maria looks and behaves which charms and captivates you. You were attracted from the first meeting. Perhaps you even fell in love a little. Maria may represent a private fantasy.

You were attracted from the very first meeting. You felt, on one hand, that you completely understood Maria and, on the other, that you never knew what to expect next. You admire Maria's originality. It taps into a uniqueness of your own.

You may have initially been more influenced by Maria's public image than more intimate persona. Maria appears to admire you greatly and you respond to that by taking a great interest in the goals and ambitions to which both of you aspire.

While you may often enjoy Maria's energy, at times it irritates you and you are not at all shy about expressing your irritation. You don't like the way Maria tries to rush you or to overrun your ideas -- particularly when it's done aggressively. You fight a lot.

Communication and shared intellectual interests are an important part of your relationship but sometimes Maria's way of speaking or writing rubs you the wrong way. It's not exactly what is being said, but the way it's being said that may tend to bother you.

There is an almost mystical quality about your relationship that is really quite lovely. That Shangri-la view you share of love and life emerges while enjoying music, sipping a glass of wine or just being close. Together you can create a mysterious ambience.

From the first meeting, Maria's physical presence affected you so strongly it was almost unsettling. You continue to find Maria interesting and stimulating but when you need to relax, you seek quiet places where you can be totally alone and private.

You feel Maria's admiration and love and respond in kind. There is something about the way Maria looks at you which makes you feel not only more confident and attractive but capable of achieving more. You admire Maria's personal style, charm and talent.

No matter how intimate the nature of your relationship, basically you are wonderful friends. You trust each other implicitly and enjoy being together. This can be a negative relationship in that you may tend to encourage each other in excesses or bad habits.

You trust Maria's opinion because, however the world may view your respective positions, you experience Maria as a powerful personality and as an authority you respect and admire. Maria directly or indirectly encourages your ideas and gives you confidence.

Maria doesn't encourage you to take chances and, since you've been together, you rarely do. On some level, Maria is your teacher and helps you to structure and organize your ideas. Whatever your current status, you defer to Maria's authority.

You express love and affection in similar ways which enables you to understand each other with a special intimacy. You also share the same tastes and values and enjoy many of the same things and people. Others enjoy being in your company at social functions.

This is a serious relationship. Maria inspires in you the kind of love and respect which makes you want to live up to the standards you both share. This could never be just a casual love affair. It either becomes committed or it ends. You admire strength.

You operate on a similar wave length and would do well both working together and playing together. Your physical energy complements Maria's and you tend to have ups and downs at the same time which bodes well for sexual harmony and mutual cooperation.

This could never be a casual relationship. Maria may grant you a certain authority while unconsciously resenting the very parenting role Maria herself is projecting onto you. You, in turn, feel the responsibility and weight of the tie. You'll always know Maria.

Maria may help you to crystallize and work hard toward your goals and ambitions and, at the same time, be so controlling and demanding that you may question whose goals you are working to achieve. Maria constantly brings up issues of responsibilities.

You have an unspoken understanding which is really quite lovely. You can pick up on Maria's fantasies, dreams and thoughts intuitively -- even when apart. Quiet times aren't uncommunicative. Music may play an important role in your relationship.

No matter how close you, you're never entirely comfortable emotionally when you are together. Maria subtly affects your self-confidence and you may have a disquieting sense that no matter how hard you try to please you never entirely succeed.

While you may like and respect each other and understand each other intellectually, there is an emotional distance which might prevent you from being truly at home with or comfortable with each other. You may, at times, find each other's moods or responses puzzling.

One thing's for sure: Maria doesn't exactly have a calming effect upon you emotionally. We might even go so far as to say that Maria rattles you at times. However, Maria also stimulates and intrigues you. Even if the ideas are odd, you must admit they're not dull.

On one level Maria fascinates you and motivates you to be the best that you can be. On another, there is something about Maria which pressures you somehow and can lead to resentment. If this is not dealt with openly, it can inhibit sexual responsiveness.

While you may communicate very well on a rational level, sometimes you may feel as if Maria doesn't really understand you. You may find Maria's emotional responses incomprehensible as well. You have to make a special effort to share and connect.

You don't think alike. Even if you are in emotional accord, there are times you seriously question if you see the same world since, while your perceptions are not necessarily in conflict, they are so different. Discussions are rarely fruitful or pleasurable.

There is something about Maria's personal style and taste and way of expressing affection which doesn't comfortably merge with your own. It may not exactly lead to war, but it may have delayed the initial attraction. Your philosophies aren't quite in sync.

Basically, this is a love tie, whatever the external reality may be of this relationship. You have fun together. You enjoy many of the same things and share many of the same attitudes toward the arts and usually have a good time when you're working on a project.

Maria's personality has a strong effect on your creativity and encourages you to be personally expressive and the best you can be. This may lead to your becoming so sure of yourself, you find yourself taking unnecessary chances and risking security.

Maria has always related intuitively to your creative and material resources and has had a remarkable effect upon the development of those resources as well as your financial status. Maria also has a knack for selecting the perfect gift.

Your relationship may be so intense that you have become quite possessive and may tend to lavish gifts and money upon Maria as a means of manipulation in order to foster a need which mirrors your own. Maria makes you feel vulnerable.

Maria will, at some time have a strong effect upon your living situation. This may take the form of helping you to find a house or an apartment or giving you excellent advice when you are making an important move. You value these ideas and suggestions.

Your home may be a meeting place for those who share your interests. Maria loves to stay at home with you and have long talks into the night. You also spend a lot of time talking together on the telephone, giving each other advice and sharing confidences.

This is a loving and affectionate relationship. You have similar taste in music, movies and entertainment and always have a good time together. The pleasure you share stimulates you erotically. If a sexual tie is not appropriate, you will share many secrets.

If you are, in any way, creative, the love and admiration Maria feels for you will motivate you to express your talent freely. You could work well together on any artistic endeavor. Any connection you have with children would also benefit from this tie.

Maria is not interested in being kept at arm's length. This is someone who wants to come to your home, meet your family and be a part of your inner circle. If you resist this for any reason, Maria might become pushy. This can create problems and exacerbate family dislike or opposition to the relationship.

Living together should be considered with caution if domestic harmony is important to you. Maria will be assertive, sometimes aggressively so. If you weren't prepared to be extremely accommodating and flexible, petty quarrels and irritations could result.

Active involvement in a project of mutual interest might reduce the tension and be an effective channel for this energy. Should you have a problem finding a place to live or figuring out how to make your home more livable, Maria can be astonishingly helpful to you.

No matter how shy or taciturn you may be in other situations, you always have plenty to say to each other. You enjoy your discussions not only because you express yourself so easily and well with Maria but because you respect and value the benefit of such good judgment.

You probably have a strong shared interest and may be involved together in an educational or communications project relating to the study of this subject. Maria would encourage any speaking or writing you may do. This relationship somehow makes your environment easier.

This may be one of the most important love relationships of your life. But somehow, no matter what Maria does, it isn't enough. You don't feel sufficiently nurtured. This brings back old memories of insufficient nurturing you received as a child.

On the other hand, Maria requires a great deal of nurturing and understanding. You may actually feel a responsibility to defer to Maria's emotional needs at the expense of your own. This often puts limits on your creativity. Children might be a problem.

You find Maria's unique and interesting and always feel stimulated when you are together. Sometimes you find the independence and unpredictability unsettling but never boring. If there is an age difference between you, you are intrigued by that generation's ideas.

You may have been surprised when you realized that Maria considers you original and unusual. Maria may be reticent in expressing less conventional ideas and rely upon you to come up with an original concept, which you will. You are stimulated by this relationship. You find it exciting.

You could live very comfortably with Maria because you have similar ideas of the ideal, happy home. You also tend to like the same music and can, very happily, enjoy quiet times in which you enjoy being together even when doing different things.

Close as you may be, however, there is an elusive quality about Maria which remains mysterious to you. You may often sense what is being thought or felt but it surely isn't being discussed. Sometimes you may wonder about out-and-out deception.

Sometimes when you are getting ready to change your environment, someone comes into your life who so shakes up your thinking and reflects your altered perspective, that remaining in the old situation becomes truly impossible. Maria has this effect upon you.

You would work wonderfully together on any project involving either depth analysis or research. You both enjoy digging below the surface - frequently in each other's lives - and any type of cooperative probing would enhance this friendship and draw you closer.