You two are very different! John is more modest, self-effacing, shy, and unobtrusive than Barack, who craves social approval, recognition, love, and applause. Barack tends to step into the limelight and outshine or overpower John. John is more emotionally self-sufficient than Barack is, and may not give Barack all of the "strokes" and appreciation Barack wants.

John also has a tendency to become fussy and particular, and these fits of perfectionism can have disastrous consequences when the target of John's critical eye is Barack. Barack is particularly sensitive to criticism and tends to interpret John's "constructive criticism" as a personal attack. John is more analytical and psychologically astute than Barack, who may not appreciate being "picked apart" or psychologically analyzed by John! Another problem in this relationship is that Barack may take for granted much of the work and assistance that John provides.

Though very different, the two of you can complement one another. John is serious, disciplined, and conscientious almost to a fault. Practical and dutiful, John has a strong need to achieve, and becomes self-condemning and unhappy if not accomplishing enough. Overwork or an over-emphasis on obligations can take all of the fun out of life for John. Barack, on the other hand, has a mischievous sense of humor and can lighten John's mood considerably.

In contrast to John, Barack may also be irresponsible and careless, which annoys John. Barack just doesn't take everything as seriously as John does.

In your relationship, Barack may play the role of the adolescent (lively, playful, but lacking direction), while John plays the mature, responsible adult.

You share a tendency to be emotionally fanatical and extremely intense, especially in regard to your mothers, your children, and the women you are closest to. Both of you are dealing with psychological wounds from an early loss, separation, or death, which tend to get stimulated every time you are intimate or vulnerable with another person. If you are not conscious of this, you may become either extremely controlling and manipulative, or the "victim" of another's emotional power games. You may feel that every intimate encounter is a life-and-death situation! Healing the pain from your past and resolving unfinished emotional business are truly necessary for either of you to have peace in your personal lives.

If you were both willing to, you could become great allies and supports for one another in this type of therapeutic, soul-cleansing "work".

You draw out each other's deepest, hidden feelings, drives, needs, and ambitions. The uncovering of your inner needs and hopes is likely to cause both of you to undergo some major personality changes. You share a deep, inner bond; this is not a light or superficial relationship. You may go on a crusade together and jointly pursue shared interests with unusual intensity and dedication.

You inspire each other to be very active in both work and play, and to accomplish a great deal. You enjoy challenging each other and perhaps enjoy competing with each other in games. The only negative tendency is to possibly develop a rivalry with each other; this is especially possible if John comes on too forcefully, directly and aggressively, hurting Barack's feelings or pride.

You don't loosen up and enjoy each other's company as much as you might have hoped. The mood that develops when you get together is formal, even constrained and inhibited at times. John may feel that Barack is too critical, acting like a parent or authority towards John. However, you do respect one another, are very responsible to each other, and feel that you understand each other even though communication is often stilted and difficult.

It is very likely that the two of you will engage in activities of an artistic or aesthetic nature. You can be unusually creative together, especially in crafts or arts.

Barack often feels held back or controlled by John. John frequently takes a cautious or cool attitude towards Barack's personal goals or desires, and Barack is likely to feel constrained and limited by John's cautiousness. If you work closely together, try not to take your joint responsibilities too seriously or to be too pessimistic and skeptical about how the two of you can meet your goals. Anger can easily build up to a toxic level if grievances between you are not aired frequently.

The distinct differences in your temperaments inclines you to periods of personality clashes and misunderstandings. In particular, Barack often feels that John does not sympathize enough or try to really understand Barack's feelings. Both of you will have to understand and respect your differences, and make a concerted effort to harmonize your very different temperaments.

The two of you really enjoy each other's company! John has a great deal of confidence in Barack and is able to see Barack's best qualities. You are very encouraging and supportive of each other, helping each other to be more confident, open new doors, and advance and grow in both inner and outer ways. This positive note of good will and harmony is also invaluable in helping the two of you overcome differences in temperament and other stressful aspects of your relationship discussed elsewhere in this report.

You enjoy long talks and you feel very much at home with each other. You are able to openly share your feelings about almost any subject. You will find that as you spend more time together, your tastes, interests, hobbies, and activities tend to blend together harmoniously. Your friendship is a strong and lasting one.

You enjoy sharing ideas about the arts, literature, and people but often you fail to understand each other and sometimes reach a complete impasse. Your feelings towards each other are sometimes misunderstood, too. Both of you will have to tolerate one another's different points of view for this relationship to work successfully.

Communication is open and harmonious. You are able to help each other incorporate new ideas and expand your perspective. If you have a close, long-lasting friendship, you will develop similar political, social, and philosophical views. Your overall beliefs and aims are in harmony. If you have a business relationship, you will do well in areas that involve long-distance communication, such as advertising, publishing, etc.

Stimulating, interesting conversations are frequent. This ease of communication and your complementary interests makes your conversations enjoyable and enlightening.

There is a great deal of mutual trustworthiness, reliability, and responsibility in this relationship that makes you both feel that you can count on each other. You willingly make sacrifices for each other, and a deep friendship between you develops over time. You will assist each other a great deal over the years.

Whatever you get in this relationship comes to you through hard work, struggle, and a willingness to endure through hardships and overcome some daunting odds. Often when you try to do things together, you come right up against a massive brick wall. This may consist of restrictive outer circumstances, your own fears and insecurities, or a combination of the two. You inhibit one another, often out of fear or a desire for security.

One of you plays the "heavy" in the other's experience, or through no fault or intention of your own, could become an oppressive or limiting factor in the other's life.

If there are other factors drawing you together which ameliorate these conditions, your friendship can strengthen you both, but it will never be an easy relationship.

Vigorous debates and intellectual sparring will inevitably play a key role in your friendship. What you might try to convey tactfully in other circumstances, you will state directly and unequivocally with each other. This can lead to numerous arguments and disputes, not so much due to deep differences of opinion but simply due to the way you both communicate with one another.

It is likely that one or both of you will come to feel verbally attacked, or criticized for petty things, unless you both are willing to work on being gentler with each other.

On the other hand, if you enjoy bantering, competing intellectually, and hotly debating various issues, you may not consider any of this a problem. It will, however, be an ongoing dynamic in the way you relate to one another.

Your mutual friends are likely to be people who are intellectually inspired and awake, interesting, and interested in innovative, unconventional, or "far out" ideas and methods. Associations with eccentric thinkers are destined to play a significant part in your relationship.

Intellectually you will never be bored with one another, and you will always find each other's company to be lively and stimulating.

If you are friends for a number of years, you will find that you develop similar tastes in art, music, and movies, and that you can inspire one another's imagination. You may become jointly involved in some activity that requires a lot of imagination or aesthetic sense. You also trigger each other's childish sense of awe and wonder and you will enjoy casting off your adult roles and responsibilities to enjoy life. The phrase "the only difference between men and boys is the size of their toys" may well apply to the two of you; and this phrase can apply to women as well! You may also get inspired about goals of a very humanitarian or selfless nature.

The effect that you have on each other is very positive. You inspire each other to a higher vision and grander dreams. The mutual benefits from this relationship are likely to be even greater than either of you realize.

Together the two of you can be real trailblazers, and you're meant to be. Progressive leadership, activism, or starting new enterprises - these are the kinds of joint endeavors the two of you will enjoy together. You seem to others the kind of people who don't conform or follow, even if as individuals you are rather conservative. You can generate a lot of initial enthusiasm and energy for anything you want to undertake together; sustaining it may be another matter. There is an inherent discontent and restlessness here, an urge to move on and do new things, and a need for excitement and physical adventures.

The two of you are destined to have a rather unsettling affect upon one another. Your relationship may begin quite suddenly and unexpectedly and disrupt your normal routine. Both of you feel free and unrestrained around each other You are inclined to "act crazy" together, doing things that are totally out of character or far more radical and daring than either of you would be inclined to do alone.

Although you have opposite personalities in some ways, you complement each other well and both of you learn from having a friend who is strong in areas where you are weak, and who brings out your strengths also.

Barack takes a keen interest in John's career and line of work. Barack provides encouragement and support to John, but may become overly concerned and meddlesome with John's affairs. John respects and may be unduly influenced by Barack's opinions.

Barack likes to confide in John, telling John many events and circumstances from childhood that no one else has been told.

As your relationship develops, a powerfully emotional bonding develops. Your feelings for each other can be rather complex. Jealousy is possible and if things go wrong, you can hate each other with the same intensity that you once cared for each other.

Your conversations are rarely superficial, and the intensity and depth of your conversations may have been an important factor in drawing the two of you into a relationship. You are also likely to develop joint business ventures or financial strategies.

Barack takes a great interest in John's career and ambitions, and has lots of ideas on how John can reach goals and aspirations. The two of you enjoy planning together and sharing ideas, and there is a good chance that you will work together in some kind of business together.

John is highly attractive and interesting to Barack, and there is a strong magnetic attraction between you that leads to a lovely and close friendship.

John has a great deal of respect and appreciation for Barack, and may even look up to Barack. If John ever feels that Barack's motives are not sincere or genuine, then the disappointment can be crushing to your friendship.

John enjoys performing chores for Barack, and also takes an interest in Barack's work and health. John enjoys assisting Barack in practical ways and the two of you are able to buckle down together and accomplish a great deal.

Barack pressures John to reveal inner, hidden traits and interests. You may irritate one another intensely at times, without knowing why.

Circumstances develop so that John is able to assist Barack in career and achieving long-term goals. John takes a great interest in Barack's ambitions and is a great supporter and promoter of Barack's talents. You can also be very successful in business activities together. John encourages Barack to have more faith and confidence and to take risks in career matters.

The warm and nurturing side of John is brought out in this relationship. If the two of you live together, it is likely that you will enjoy a high level of domestic harmony. Together you could also invest profitably in real estate.

John's more mature, responsible, reliable side comes out in this relationship. John becomes almost paternalistic toward Barack, and John is inclined to offer lots of advice, sometimes being critical, judgmental, and interfering too much with Barack's plans and goals. John's "helpful criticism" sometimes sours into moralistic judgments. John should be wary of the tendency to control Barack and severely limit Barack's freedom.

You can expect that this relationship will bring both of you face to face with personal habits of your own that must be improved, or at least adapted to the tastes of your friend. Issues such as tidiness and neatness, use of abusive or foul language, choice of foods, tastes in music and art, etc. come to the fore. At times you will come to an impasse and feel that you cannot come to an agreement on these issues. John, in particular, may become very frustrated by some of Barack's deeply ingrained, personal habits. If your ethnic backgrounds or upbringings are very different, this problem can be severe. If both of you can be tolerant, open-minded, accepting of shortcomings in your friend, and willing to learn new attitudes, you can turn potentially frustrating situations into opportunities to mature and grow emotionally.

There is a spontaneity and quickness to your communications that allows the two of you to convey a lot of information to each other very rapidly. John spurs Barack to develop new, creative ideas and you both enjoy the fresh, innovative ideas that come to you when you start brainstorming together.

Together you become active participants in community, social action, and progressive ideas. Barack encourages John to become involved in social and political issues, and you encourage each other to look beyond your personal lives and take an interest in issues of broader scope that affect your community, country, or the world as a whole.

There is a great deal of fantasy and idealism in your relationship and both of you will need to work hard to maintain a reasonable level of realism and objectivity. Barack, in particular, tends to have an idealized view of John, and this can result in bitter disappointment later when the cloud lifts.

Barack brings out John's more idealistic, imaginative, intuitive, or "spacey" side. Barack enjoys sharing his ideals and fantasies with John, even if these dreams seem childish or unrealistic. Barack may also tend to exaggerate a bit with John and needs to try to be as honest as possible with John.

John may profoundly influence Barack's attitude toward work, health care, diet, or self-development and self-improvement. Deep self analysis and probing into the roots of one's problems are emphasized.

The two of you inspire each other to become excited and even zealous about ideologies and social causes. Barack challenges John's theories and any organizations that he/she is a member of, and motivates John to strive to reform and improve these organizations. You may become active together in politics or social issues.

When the two of you get together, you make a lot of noise, and there is lots of excitement. There is a strong element of unpredictability and spontaneity as well and you enjoy improvising new ideas and playing together. Because there is a loose, spontaneous quality to your relationship, you find that very often you can not depend on each other and it is difficult for the two of you to focus on mundane, tedious, or onerous tasks together. This is a good relationship for exploring new possibilities and interests and for spurring each other to become more spontaneous, independent, and creative, but a difficult relationship if dependability and commitment to each other is a high priority.

You both really enjoy each other's company. You put each other in a good mood and an optimistic, friendly, jovial atmosphere develops when you get together.

Your relationship is dynamic and energetic. If both of you enjoy athletic sports or other physical activities, you will have a wonderful time sharing these interests. You work well as a team and you are able to coordinate your efforts in a very harmonious, successful way.

Your conversations tend to be probing and deep. You enjoy uncovering the underlying motivations and causes of a situation. Frequently what starts out as a light, friendly conversation ends up as an in-depth psychoanalysis of each other! John may dominate your conversations and at times tries to force Barack into agreeing or believing whatever John wants!

It is very difficult for the two of you to jointly accomplish practical, mundane tasks. You draw out the silly, childish, imaginative side of each other, and you often will simply not be able to clearly focus on practical tasks. If either of you has a drinking, drug, or psychological problem, it is likely that your relationship will highlight this problem. Be wary of the tendency of both of you to over-indulge in these kinds of bad habits.

You help bring one another's dreams and aspirations to life, challenging one another's negative or limiting attitudes, inspiring one another to be all that you are capable of being. You stimulate an almost fanatical desire to grow, to expand, and to succeed in a big way, no matter how you define success. There is a tremendous sense of adventure and of limitless possibilities, either for exploring your inner worlds or in changing and improving conditions in the outer world. You do tend to go to extremes, to be a bit too zealous together at times.

Most likely there is a strong attraction-repulsion quality between the two of you, and it may be difficult for you to totally relax, surrender control, or completely trust one another.

Try to avoid becoming overly serious, intense, and heavy when you are together.

John challenges, and may revolutionize, Barack's attitudes and religious beliefs. You spark one another's imagination, and you share lofty hopes, dreams, and visions with one another. You may find yourself having strange feelings or unexplainable psychic experiences together, even if you usually have no interest in such things.

There is an electric, dynamic quality between you which stimulates both of you to make decisive and possibly radical changes in your lives. Energy, restlessness, action, and change characterize your relationship, and this can be channeled into some creative project or goal.